Posts by Nathaniel Cilley

When making a new goal it’s important to stop and ask ourselves what our intentions are behind the goals we’re trying to set. It’s sometimes hard to know whether our goals are thought up with the right intentions in mind. Afterall wanting to improve our health, lose weight, or enhance our appearance, etc. are generally…

Did you know there’s such a thing as unhealthy positive emotions? It may seem strange, but just as there are healthy and unhealthy versions of negative emotions, there are equally healthy and unhealthy positive emotions. Unhealthy positive emotions are typically overlooked because we generally put an emphasis on the destructive nature of negative emotions instead.…

Life can be tough, sometimes even really tough! It’s hard to pull ourselves out of a crumby mood – especially when we’re experiencing a very intense one! When we’re down doesn’t it feel like all we want to do is bring others down with us? It’s so easy to be self-destructive this way. When upset…

Therapy doesn’t need to be an arduous never-ending process; however, the length of therapy depends on many factors. Most people imagine therapy where the client lies on a couch, and the therapist asks “how does that make you feel,” as the client rambles on until they eventually have a magical life-changing epiphany. Although television tends…

I regretfully wrote this blog in response to the many complaints and frustrations I hear about this new passive-aggressive tactic known as ghosting. If you’re not already familiar with the term, ghosting refers to the time when someone that we’re dating passively discontinues engagement with us without giving any reason why. We also don’t get…

No matter how much something could inconvenience us, and no matter how hard it would make our lives, it doesn’t guarantee that bad things still can’t happen to us. All that should be will be and all that should’ve been already was. Accepting this reality doesn’t mean we have to like what’s going on and…

I have yet to meet anyone who likes rejection. It can be one of the most difficult emotional experiences. We tend to avoid it at all costs and often perceive it happening even when it’s not — yet we still run from it anyway. It’s very understandable why we are this way. The yearning to…

The intention behind what we say drastically changes depending on the way we say it. The manner in which we tell ourselves things is an underemphasized point when it comes to changing our thinking patterns from unhelpful thoughts to rational constructive ones. We say what we think we’re supposed to as if we’ve rehearsed a…