Posts by Nathaniel Cilley
Men – What Happens When Anxiety Affects Your Sex Life?
~ Written By: Alicia Pinkston, MSc, AASECT Have you ever had trouble getting or maintaining an erection, concern about ejaculating too quickly or not quick enough, or a loss of desire for sex? Concerns like these can be either psychological or physical, or a combination. Chances are anxiety could be a contributing factor, given that…
Read MoreThe Double Whammy! (When we have negative feelings about our negative feelings)
Did you know we can make ourselves anxious about being anxious? We can also have anxiety about depression, anxiety about anger, or even anxiety about embarrassment. This phenomenon when we have a negative emotion about a negative emotion is called a meta-emotion. The meta-emotion is the secondary emotion. I’m going to focus on explaining anxiety…
Read MoreDoes Positive Thinking Really Work?
How many of us have been told to just think positive? This belief that if we have a positive outlook everything will be okay, seems to be what everyone’s striving for these days. I hear this all the time. Given all the recent hype about positive thinking in the media, I decided to divulge into…
Read MoreHow To Change Your Thinking By Doing
In therapy, I spend a lot of time helping clients uncover their unconscious beliefs so they can question the validity of these beliefs, gain self-awareness, and work towards replacing them with less disturbing viewpoints. When the mind plays tricks by convincing us to perceive reality much differently than it actually is, disputing our thoughts and…
Read MoreWhy Do People Troll?
About a year I ago I started blogging and coming up with content to put on the internet. I figured with the rise in social media, being out in the public eye would be an excellent way for me to spread the hopeful message of Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT). It felt terrific not only…
Read MoreHow To Be Shameless
Shame was an emotion I previously hadn’t put too much thought into. Yeah, I know we all get embarrassed from time to time, but I wasn’t aware of how impactful it is for many people. I’m a pretty outgoing guy, and therefore I naively assumed that most people were less bothered by shame than I…
Read MoreDo You Have Imposter Syndrome?
Have you ever suffered from intense anxiety at the workplace? Consistently doubting your accomplishments, and fearing sooner or later someone will find out that you’re not all that you’re cracked up to be? You know, that feeling deep inside that you’re not good at your job. The anticipation that sooner or later you’re going to…
Read MoreHow To Like Yourself Despite Your Imperfections
The relationship with yourself is the most important one you’ll ever have because it’s a lifelong relationship. You’re stuck with you for the rest of your life, so you might as well like yourself. No matter how much you dislike or fret certain things about you that you just can’t get past, you’ll never be…
Read More7 Steps To Consider Before Taking The Therapy Plunge!
The thought of starting therapy is very daunting for many of you. Most likely you’ve been dealing with your problem(s) for a long time. After exhausting all other thinkable options is when you finally decide to take the plunge into therapy. Unfortunately us therapists are the last resort for many of you. Often times stigma,…
Read MoreGot A Case Of The Sunday Scaries?
The weekends are a fantastic way to let loose, have fun, and catch up with the ones you care about. Fridays can also be really exciting with the anticipation of the weekend just around the corner. There’s the thrill of planning what to do, who to see, and where to go in the days ahead.…
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